*POP! Shhhhhhhhluuuuuurp. POP!*
Did you hear that? That was me opening a can of worms. Some of you will agree with me but I have a sneaking suspicion I am about to strike a few nerves with a few people. I might even piss off a few, but here I go nonetheless.
I am sick and tired of the hateful Marilyn memes
declaring such inane things as:
and
Now before you go getting you knickers in a knot let me explain why I am sick to my back teeth of memes (and comments) like these:
These memes are SUPPOSED to encourage positive self-image, body acceptance and promote the beauty of different body types and are doing anything but. These memes are actually rather hateful not to mention hypocritical. Some people are thin, some rubenesque and a whole range of sizes in between and no one has a right to judge any of them. To say that all thin people are unattractive or anorexic is no different than insults & discrimination that curvier women complain of being subjected to. Most people would never dream of telling someone who is overweight to pass on the pie, yet many seem to not think twice about telling thin people that they need to “go eat a burger.”
I am by no means itty bitty, but I am slender and at my old job I was constantly harassed for declining to eat doughnuts or cake (of which there seemed an endless supply) and was frequently teased for being thin and eating salads for lunch.
Was the teasing called for? Nope. Not at all. I was merely living my life in a fashion that maked me comfortable and that I enjoyed.
This double standard needs to stop.
Every body is unique and beautiful. Different people find different bodies attractive. Do I really need to bring up the old adage “beauty is in the eye of the beholder?” (Too late. You made me do it.) Different people feel better at different weights too. No weight, shape or size is better than another.
We all have our own comfort zones, our own concepts of beauty
and they need to be respected, not rejected.
The catty behavior needs to stop from people on both sides of the scale. Knock it the hell off already. It’s stupid and bitchy.
Sexy isn’t a dress size. Sexy isn’t a cup size
Sexy isn’t a number on a scale.
Sexy is:
confidence
kindness
tolerance & acceptance of yourself AND others
respect & appreciation for our differences
So knock off the bullshit already and get over it. Love and appreciate our differences. Celebrate them. Quit judging each other. It’s not good for the heart, it’s not good for the soul and it’s certainly not good for the collective psyche of women everywhere.
We’re all beautiful. All of us.
And we are all “real” women, whether curvy or willowy.
Now circle up and let’s get our hug on.
Kisses & Keepin’ It Real Chaos,
Alli Woods Frederick
PS – (Don’t even get me started on the fact that breast implants as we know them first came into use in 1962 and the first ever known breast augmentation was performed in 1895 with a whole slew of other (horrific) methods used between those years. And for the record, anorexia was first reported in 1689 and first recognized as a medical condition in 1873 by Sir William Gull. I’m pretty sure, unless she was part of a secret group of immortals where there can be only one, that Marilyn was born many, MANY years later in both instances. Get your facts straight mysterious creator of meme #1 before you run around and spread your hateful misinformation.)
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