I’VE BEEN THINKING ABOUT FAILURE A LOT LATELY and I’ve come to the following conclusion:
Most people don’t really know what failure is.
THEY THINK they know, but they’re mistaken. Many people labor under the misconception that if you try something and it doesn’t work out the way you wanted or expected then you’ve failed.
This is wrong wrong wrong wrong wrong.
I CAN’T BEGIN to tell you how wrong this is. After a lot of thought, self-reflection and some recent (and not so recent) conversations with people who don’t support or believe in the vision I have for my life, my art, my intuition, my dreams, I had an epiphany about the true nature of failure.
FAILURE AND SUCCESS are not opposites. In fact they aren’t even related. Nope. Not a whit. Not a bit.
SUCCESS is when you achieve a goal you’ve set for yourself. It’s a metric that’s determined by you and your ultimate desires. To some success is earning a 6 figure income or laughing more each day; to others success is creating the perfect hybrid between the crunchy and chewy chocolate chip cookie. If you set a goal, be it big or small, and achieve it you have succeeded.
BUT WHAT IF YOU SET A GOAL and that goal kicks your ass up, down and all over town? Isn’t that failure?
WHAT YOU HAVE DONE is not succeeded in achieving your goal. Maybe you were missing some key knowledge or steps in realizing your dream of creating the first fully functioning spaceship out of felted cat hair. Maybe your goal merely needs some fine tuning or some scaling down. My point is that what you have done is not succeeded in achieving your goal this time. THIS TIME.
Tweak it, spin it, spank it and try again.
You have not failed.
THERE IS ONLY ONE WAY TO FAIL and it is guaranteed to work (or not work as the case may be) every single time.
The only way to truly fail is to never try.
So next time things go awry and you find yourself feeling defeated, stop. Take a deep breath. Step back & look at what could be done differently. Then do it differently and try again.
Do it differently and try again.
Never give up on your dreams.
Even if it’s creating a cat fur spaceship.