I found this in the children’s section of the bookstore the other day.  I had no idea that goth kindergartners even existed.  I learn something new every day.

 Kisses & Chaos,

Alli Woods Frederick

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I trust the universe to always

put me precisely where

I need to be.

"you are here photograph"

Kisses & Chaos,

Alli Woods Frederick

photo credit: “Here…” by Leigh Ann
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For some reason this week, though quiet, seemed weird and fast…and not weird in a bad way…just weird…slightly off kilter, askew, off.  I can’t put my finger on it, but there’s something in the air this week.  Do you feel it?  Have you noticed?  Tell me I’m not crazy (though we’re all pretty sure that is not actually the case).  It almost feels like the energy has reached a breaking point where one thing or another must give way to something different and new…like an energetic ear pop is about to take place.  Does that make sense?  *shrugs*  Maybe it’s just me…hell if I know. 

Things I Love Thursday:
The Off Kilter Edition

*  Modcloth’s customer service.  There’s a reason I’m a Modcloth affiliate, you know.  It’s not just because they have some of the absolute cutest clothes and housewares, but it’s also because their customer service is AWESOME!!!  They ran this amazing sale for facebook fans (seriously…50% off…if you don’t “Like” them yet, you really should) so I ordered this fantastic dress for a song.  It arrived yesterday and the box was completely jacked…totally mangled.  I called Modcloth to let them know and they, in all their awesomeness, gave me a coupon even though the dress was completely fine.  How sweet is that?  I LOVE Modcloth to bits! 

*  Jah Division…Dub Will Tear Us Apart.  Check the bottom of the post to hear it. 

*  I completely forgot to mention this last week, but the honey and I went to see Bridesmaids and we both loved it.  It is so refreshing to see an genuinely funny (albeit crass) ensemble cast of WOMEN.  Hollywood never gives women their due as comedic performers; so, kudos to you Judd Apatoh!  Well done and thank you!  And girls, you ROCK. 

*   UFO’s.  And not just because my honey and I saw one last night while we were leaving Target (which we totally did…it was cigar shaped and glowing this amazing red-orange…no wings, no sound, no exhaust trail…AND it was still daylight.)…I have always found them fascinating.  Really really fascinating…and really really odd that our government is one of the few to deny that there are strange things in the sky that aren’t “ours.”  France admitted it, as did the UK, Mexico, Russia (I think…I’m pretty sure Russia did, but don’t quote me on it) as well as several other nations.  Man, our government thinks we are really stupid…

*    String cheese.  For reasons unbeknownst to me I have been fiending for it.

*   The Edison Bar.  I’m sure I’ve mentioned this magnificent beast of a bar in previous incarnations of Kisses & Chaos, but I simply cannot help myself.  Would you just LOOK at these interiors?!?!?!  They make my brain go all tingly.  Steampunk speakeasy?  YES PLEASE!!!

*   Stripes mixed with florals…although I have a co-worker who STRONGLY disagrees with me on this point.

*   My honey, My Mischa, My family.  You are all so very wonderful and I am truly blessed.

*   All of you.  I thank you for your support and friendship.  You guys are amazing!

What are you in love with this week?

Kisses & Chaos,
Alli Woods Frederick








 

photo credits: “Dreams” by Eugenio Recuenco *  Edison Bar Images via Robert Miller

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Over Coming Over-Thinking

I was recently doing a personality inventory which entailed asking a few of my nearest and dearest friends a few questions about my strengths and weaknesses (courtesy of White Hot Truth‘s Danielle LaPorte).  The feedback I received was actually very interesting.

When my friends were asked what aspect of my personality they would change “for my own sake” their responses were freakishly similar: “over-thinker” and “analytical.”

Ironically (and  rather predictably) this made my head begin to reel with questions:

How do I stop over-thinking?

Is this something that can be changed?

Can I overcome my addiction to examining subtext, body language and the nuances of inflection and word choice?

Where do I even begin?

My friends were right.  I am a chronic and habitual over-thinker.

Epiphany

Then I had an epiphany (Sorry, Oprah…it’s not an Ah-ha! Moment and you did not invent them…people have been having them since the dawn of time…epiphanies…look it up.).  I know exactly what I have to do.

I have to LEARN to LIVE in THE MOMENT.

This, my dear friends, is a very scary thought to me.  My head is a giant “what-if” machine, cranking out every single possible outcome to any and all possible scenarios for any given course of action.  My brain examines all the possible outcomes and develops “how-to’s” to deal with every eventuality that may occur.  I feel anxious but prepared.  My what-if’s are like crack to me.  I rely on them.  I need them.  It’s scary to think of letting go of who I am for who I can become.  Does that make sense?

So what would my life look like if I learned to live in the moment?  How do I go about making this realization a reality?
Honestly?  I have no idea…but I’m going to try.

Maybe you would like to join me in my journey of living in the moment, experiencing life and joy without expectations and the limitations that what-if’s create?  I’m going to attempt this journey and I would love it if you came along.  I might succeed, I might fail, but I’ll never know until I try.

So here goes nothing.
Let’s dive into the deep end and see how well we swim.

Kisses & Chaos,
Alli Woods Frederick

PS- I’m going to begin my adventure by checking out  Eckhart Tolle‘s book “The Power of Now*”.  I’ll check back in with you as soon as I’m done with it.  If you want to discuss experiences and results I can either try to set up a forum here or we gab about it on my facebook page.  Let me know if you have a preference.

*please note: this is an amazon affiliate link, but you can also download the audio book from Itunes or Audible.
 
photo credit: all images by Aaron Draper
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Warpaint

13th of May, 2011

O2 Academy, Oxford

Went to see Warpaint, an L.A. band currently being heavily courted by the hype machine – an all girl quartet with a critically adored debut album, as well as having celebrity connections – singer Emily Kokal dated former Red Hot Chilli Pepper John Frusciante, bassist Jenny Lee Lindberg is the sister of actress Shannyn Sossamon, etc… But like the excited music press, I’d also become smitten by The Fool, which was released by Rough Trade in late October 2010.

Support is from London-based Kiwi oddball Connan Mockasin, whose sound is primarily floaty ambient-jazz soundscapes. His fragile child-like voice recalls Bowie on helium or after some terrible shrinking accident. Connan seems relieved by the politeness of the audience, almost to the point of nervous self-deprecation (this makes sense when you realise he’s had toilet roll and all sorts thrown onstage at him during past gigs). His dad Joe is persuaded to join in on some of the numbers, and some informal jamming begins. Mockasin’s set is trippy and full of strange whimsy, with songs like “Unicorn In Uniform” and “Please Turn Me Into the Snat” (mystical half snake/half rat creature), but his manner is reserved, his stage presence fairly static and the sound sometimes too low to compete with the chatter of the disinterested portion of the audience. It’s obvious this is something different, and liable to pass by the less than patient ears of the Friday night crowd unappreciated.

He closes with the climactic title track from his new (repackaged) album Forever Dolphin Love, bowing his disarrayed blonde mop of hair over his guitar in concentration as he bangs out a pretty emotive crescendo of sound for the finale. It seems this ten minute epic has somehow finally gotten through to the audience, as the girl behind me breathlessly remarks, “That last one was pretty awesome!”

For all his struggles on the gig circuit it’s heartening to know there is someone bringing artistry and diversity back into music and the record is a thing of mystifying beauty, imagination and off-kilter arrangements that seeps into your mind and stays there.

Warpaint arrive on stage in their thrift store stylings of floral prints, baggy grey knitwear, trainers and ‘just got out of bed’ hair. Their understated wardrobe remind me of another favorite all-girl combo The Raincoats, but as their hypnotic weaving rhythms start, it’s clear they have their own musical forces of magic to rely on.

They begin with “Set Your Arms Down”, a haunting ripple of spectral guitars underpinned by Jenny Lee Lindberg’s authoritative throbbing bass, the lyrics all confrontational – duels with pocket knives .

Next is “Warpaint”, an ethereal dissonance that drives on with Theresa Wayman’s reimagining of 80’s post-punk angular riffing and layered with the washed out sensuality of Emily Kokal’s sleepy vocals.

We’re also treated to single “Undertow”, which sprawls with a subtle languorous melody, sweeping the powerless listener blissfully under the surf. This is possibly the highlight of the set.

The name Warpaint implies hot-blooded warriors, battle cries and the pelts of slain beasts as headwear, but instead the atmosphere is that of an eerie, almost insular female clan dancing around a cold blue campfire, reinforced by the glassy guitar and chanted three way vocal chorus of “Composure”.

Incredibly, although there’s an organic narcolepsy in the way the songs develop, there’s also a focus and a tightness which, when balanced together, pulls off a near-perfect aural treat. Their sound is dreamy and impressionistic at times yet also driven by a pounding, tribal urgency, think My Bloody Valentine and early Cure crossed with The Slits.

All the girls have fine airy voices that blend flawlessly together, and also stand out well alone, as Emily Kokal demonstrates with the intimate solo strumming of “Baby”, which silences the whole room, even the chatty types at the bar!

They finish with the pounding, bass-heavy “Elephants” from their Exquisite Corpse EP, with Kokal’s hair flying, keening like a banshee “I’ll break your heart to keep you far from where the dangers start”.

It is a neat, finely-tuned performance with not a foot out of step and not a note out of place. The audience is left dazzled, and transfixed with a quiet reverence that lasts even after they leave the premises with their hands stuffed full of leaflets and flyers they were too stunned to refuse.
Believe the hype and go and see them if you can!

Author – Carrie Quartly
I am a transplanted American and music obsessive living in England. Also an avid animal lover and fan of Japanese art toys. I write about my favorite subjects as a hobby and like nothing more than life altering live experiences and supping oddly named cocktails.
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Photo credit: all images by Chris Quartly
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